Episode 013: B is for Boundaries and Belonging

B is for Boundaries and Belonging

Welcome to Polyamirite Episode 013: B is for Boundaries and Belonging

What happens when our need for connection collides with our need for self-protection? In this deep, vulnerable, and truth-packed episode of The ABCs of Polyamirite, Chelle unpacks the complex tension between boundaries and belonging in polyamorous relationships.

From self-abandonment and unmet needs to practical tools for setting—and receiving—boundaries with clarity and care, this episode explores why so many of us struggle to hold onto ourselves in the name of love. We will get real about the cultural pressures that tell us to perform, to stay small, or to “just deal with it” in order to keep our place in a relationship — and how reclaiming our limits can actually deepen intimacy, not destroy it.

Whether you're new to non-monogamy or a seasoned polyam practitioner, this conversation will help you:

• Understand the difference between a boundary and a demand

• Navigate tricky dynamics like hierarchy, scheduling, and metamour tensions

• Learn language and scripts for honest, kind boundary-setting

• Explore how real belonging can’t exist without truth

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Can I really say no and still be loved?” — this episode is for you.

“You cannot truly belong if you are constantly shape-shifting to stay included.”

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart